Amongst the Natives #1
andthelab: tell me a story.
Here is a story about being cruel to me. Here is another version of this story:
I was talking with a friend who is friends with an ex of mine last week and he expressed fear for my ex: He’s getting worse! I think he might start voting conservative or even nationalist.
And I started reflecting on my short relationship with that person and how he might be more conservative than my friend would want him to be and I remembered that he once told me that there does seem to be a world-wide Jewish Conspiracy and implied that my having a small amount of money proved this. He told me that it was because I wasn’t his type that he wasn’t getting turned on during sex. He told me that inter-cultural relationships weren’t a good idea because he had dated a Muslim man during Ramadan and viewed it as a burden to him because he felt bad about eating in front of him. And I didn’t even think about leaving him until after he made the third comment about his Muslim ex-lover. He not only told me that I was a Jew that confirmed his old-style, conspiracy Anti-Semitism, but also that I was unattractive to him. I only felt leaving him was justified, however, after he started being racist or an asshole to people who weren’t me.
He was staying with me at the time, so I didn’t see the point of breaking up with him right then and there in my kitchen, after he told me that dating Muslims was just too hard for white Catholic people. I lazily performed our relationship for the rest of the weekend and broke up with him four hours before his train back home on Sunday. I said that him telling me I was unattractive made me feel unattractive and that we shouldn’t keep seeing each other because part of the reason people have sex is that they are attracted to each other.
He cried and said “I guess this is the problem with honesty.”
But as I try not to say bad things about people to people that admire them, all I said to my friend was “Well his grandparents were collaborators.”
Which is true. He told me that, too.